Dealing with the loss of a child is never easy. Most parents want their children to live full, healthy lives. They would prefer to be taken from this Earth first, not their child. It just seems so devastating when you hear of a baby or teenager passing away. It doesn’t matter the age, the loss just seems so much harder. Why them? Why couldn’t they live longer? What did they do to deserve to be taken away from their loved one’s so soon? Why is the parent being punished? These are some of the questions that go through your mind over and over. It’s just not right!
But, God doesn’t make mistakes. It really is quite a confusing time. You are sad, angry, grief-stricken, heart-broken, but also happy there is no more suffering, happy they are in Heaven with God, with other family members, and playing with other kids just like they would be doing if they were still alive.
It sometimes takes years for people to get to the stage of acceptance and knowing their child is in a much better place. It is still hard to think that my son, Evan, is in a better place. The best place for him to be is with me! I am the Mama. But, God is THE FATHER. He knows best and I have had to trust and believe that. If I did not believe in God, I would not be able to write about dealing with the loss of a child.
Tomorrow, Sunday, February 7, 2016, will be the anniversary of Evan’s passing away at Children’s Medical Center of Dallas. Yes, it has been seven years and I still remember the day. It was a Saturday. It was the first time and last time I got to wipe Evan off, dress him, and hold him without all of the wires and tubes. He was finally at peace and I was heartbroken. We all are were.
It always gets hard around Evan’s birthday and his death-day. Today is no exception. I deal, my husband deals, my 9-year-old deals, and we remember. We are all dealing with the loss of someone we hold dear. But, dealing with the loss of a child.. no words just time.
Please let me know if my post has been helpful and feel free to share if you know someone going through a similar experience. Check out my previous post on Remembering Evan.